Overcoming Anxiety: Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR

Feeling overwhelmed by anxiety can be an incredibly isolating experience. However, it does not have to stay this way. Two modalities that are proven to be effective with anxiety are Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). With the help of these two types of therapy, individuals can find effective ways to overcome their anxiety and regain control of their lives.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on identifying and addressing the underlying emotions and attachment patterns that contribute to anxiety. By creating a safe and supportive therapeutic environment, EFT helps to explore and process emotions in a way that promotes healing and strengthens relationships.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a powerful therapy that targets memories and their associated difficult emotions. By using bilateral stimulation, usually through eye movements, EMDR helps individuals reprocess and integrate negative experiences, leading to a reduction in anxiety and emotional distress. Working with a therapist trained in these evidence-based therapies can provide you with tools that can help to overcome anxiety and lead a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Understanding Anxiety and Its Impact

Anxiety is a natural response to stress or perceived threats. While it is normal to experience anxiety in certain situations, it becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with daily life. Chronic anxiety can have a significant impact on physical, emotional, and social well-being.

Physically, anxiety can manifest as a racing heart, shortness of breath, muscle tension, and digestive issues. Emotionally, it can lead to feelings of restlessness, irritability, and a constant sense of worry. Socially, anxiety can cause a person to withdraw from social activities, isolate themselves, and have difficulties forming and maintaining relationships.

Living with anxiety can be exhausting and debilitating, but there is hope. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) offer effective approaches to help individuals overcome anxiety and improve overall well-being.

How EFT Can Help in Overcoming Anxiety?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based therapy that focuses on understanding and addressing the underlying emotions and attachment patterns that contribute to anxiety. It emphasizes a safe and supportive therapeutic environment to explore and process emotions, leading to healing and growth.

The core principles of EFT revolve around the idea that emotions are adaptive and serve as important signals in our lives. By helping to identify and express emotions, EFT aims to create a deeper understanding of personal needs and desires, as well as the patterns that can keep someone stuck in anxiety.

EFT therapists work collaboratively with clients to create a secure and trusting therapeutic relationship. This safe space allows individuals to explore their anxieties and fears without judgment or criticism. By understanding the root causes of anxiety, EFT helps individuals develop healthier coping mechanisms and build stronger relationships based on trust and emotional support.

Principles and Techniques of EFT for Anxiety

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) employs a variety of principles and techniques to help individuals overcome their anxiety. One of the fundamental principles is the belief that emotions are a key driver of behavior and play a crucial role in shaping our relationships.

In EFT, therapists help individuals identify and express their emotions by creating a safe and non-judgmental space for exploration. By encouraging open and honest communication, therapists assist clients in understanding the underlying emotions that fuel their anxiety.

Another important technique used in EFT is reframing. This involves helping individuals reframe their negative thoughts and beliefs about themselves, others, and the world. By challenging and replacing these negative cognitions with more positive and accurate ones, individuals can reduce their anxiety and develop a more positive outlook on life.

EFT also focuses on improving communication and interpersonal skills. By teaching individuals how to express their needs and emotions effectively, EFT helps build healthier and more fulfilling relationships. This, in turn, reduces anxiety, as individuals feel more supported and understood by their loved ones.

How EMDR Can Help in Treating Anxiety

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a powerful therapy that has been shown to be effective in treating anxiety, particularly anxiety related to traumatic experiences. EMDR helps individuals reprocess and integrate traumatic memories, leading to a reduction in anxiety and emotional distress.

The underlying theory of EMDR suggests that traumatic experiences can become "stuck" in our brains, preventing us from properly processing them. This can result in the re-experiencing of traumatic events, flashbacks, and heightened anxiety. EMDR helps to unblock this processing by using bilateral stimulation, usually through eye movements, to stimulate the brain's natural healing processes.

During an EMDR session, individuals focus on a specific traumatic memory while simultaneously engaging in bilateral stimulation. This can be done through following the therapist's finger movements, listening to alternating sounds, or using tactile stimulation. The bilateral stimulation helps to activate both sides of the brain, facilitating the reprocessing and integration of the traumatic memory.

Phases and Techniques of EMDR for Anxiety

EMDR is typically conducted in eight phases, each with its own objectives and techniques. The first phase involves a comprehensive assessment of the individual's history and current symptoms. This allows the therapist to identify specific targets for EMDR treatment, such as the traumatic memories that contribute to anxiety.

In the second phase, the therapist helps the individual develop coping skills to manage any anxiety that may arise during the EMDR process. This includes teaching relaxation techniques and grounding exercises to ensure the individual feels safe and supported throughout the therapy.

The subsequent phases of EMDR involve identifying the specific traumatic memories to target, desensitizing the memories through bilateral stimulation, and reprocessing the memories to promote healing and integration. This is done by guiding the individual to explore the emotions, beliefs, and sensations associated with the traumatic memory while simultaneously engaging in bilateral stimulation.

Throughout the process, the therapist helps the individual to identify and challenge any negative beliefs or self-perceptions that may be contributing to their anxiety. By replacing these negative beliefs with more positive and adaptive ones, individuals can experience a reduction in anxiety and an increased sense of self-worth.


Anxiety can be a debilitating condition, but it does not have to be a permanent state of being. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) offer effective approaches to overcoming anxiety and regaining control of your life.

EFT focuses on understanding and addressing the underlying emotions and attachment patterns that contribute to anxiety. By creating a safe and supportive therapeutic environment, EFT helps individuals explore and process their emotions, leading to healing and growth.

EMDR targets traumatic memories and their associated negative emotions. By using bilateral stimulation, EMDR helps individuals reprocess and integrate these memories, leading to a reduction in anxiety and emotional distress.

Whether you choose EFT, EMDR, or a combination of both, finding a therapist trained in these evidence-based therapies is essential for effective anxiety treatment. With the right support and tools, you can overcome anxiety and lead a healthier, more fulfilling life.

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